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How To Survive New Years Eve When You’re Single

December 30, 2011

Ahhhhh…Christmas is over and had such a nice time, visiting Family I actually liked & appreciated spending time with. (Avoided the ones who drive me nuts & just don’t “get me”…hence the nice time)
Not at all feeling guilty about eating chocolates or having some Baileys in my morning coffee…nope, is a very nice & relaxing holiday time for me…no stress, just relaxing & chilling out…..

YIKES….New Years Eve is just around the corner… this is the one holiday’s that I just don’t like very much…Being single and having no romantic partner to be with….Just Sucks!!!
Really, it more than Sucks, quite frankly. All the shows, ads & movies are about “Ringing in the New Year” with your Love partner by your side…being all cheery and saying the magical countdown.…10…9….8….7….6….5…4…3…2…1..HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! Now that great, wonderful New Years Kiss…all is happy & bright & full of great things exactly at Midnight…because you are with your Love Partner. This isn’t how my many New Years Eves have been spent…quite the opposite really, being single & a solo parent…I’ve spent my New Years Eve’s with my children, counting down the final 10 seconds & shouting (or as my children have gotten older…just said the words) Happy New Year!

Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with my children & I do love them. It is just not the same as celebrating with a Love Partner too. So, this year seems to affecting me more than past years and I just wanted to send out a quick survival kit to others, who also find themselves alone this New Years Eve’s night.

So… here’s my 2 cents on how to survive new years eve when you’re single.

1. Begin to view the idea of being single as a choice…With a New year approaching, do you still choose to remain single or can you choose the intent to find a loving partner to share your life with for this new year ahead of you

2. Create a Been There, Done That & Don’t Want to do That Again List (Better known as the low points of the year that you no longer want to hang onto)

3. Create a Great Things That Happened This Year List (Better known as a Gratitude list)

4. Start with the Been There list…read it over slowly and take in the very fact that you survived & surpassed all these upsets or setbacks in your year…You Made It Through!

5. Now…go ahead and Rip, Tear, Shred, Throw in garbage or Burn this list…be done & say goodbye to the past and make room for new to enter once more.

6. Read through the Things That Happened list…read this list even more slowly and savor the high points in your year, the very things you are grateful for and say Thank You!

7. Breathe in this New Year with Happiness, with Eagerness and with Enthusiasm…Breathe it all in eyes closed and hand on heart to fully Claim This New Year as Your Year.

8. Celebrate this New Years Eve your way, feeling proud that you have done a damn fine job & you are worth Celebrating in every moment of the New Year ahead!!

Have yourself a Great New Years Eve Celebration, however you see fit to celebrate it!

Until next time… Make each day count!

Be Grateful & Appreciative,
Nicole

When Breaking Down Leads To A BreakThrough

December 10, 2011

Looking back through the year…there has been many, many changes. Last year at this time…I was at the beginning stages of my Breakdown; A BreakDown to get to my BreakThrough. I honestly fought this deep, deep lonely feeling until I could fight it no longer…As I laid in a pile of soiled tissues, chest heaving to that way down deep pain…pain & cries of the most primordial cry that we can produce.

My world disappeared before my eyes…the world where I knew who I was…what I was supposed to be doing…and how I fit into this world. Everything that I knew to be true…was yanked out from beneath my feet. Everything that I thought I had learned in the last 11 years, was coming to face me during this stripped away time…every lesson I went through came back to visit me, to see if I truly understood & got the lessons…got the lessons & could apply these lessons at a time when I was in my spiritually raw moments…when the masks were stripped off & the real, unpolished Me was just left to deal with these lessons.
My heart cried the tears that had been forgotten about so many years ago…my soul cracked open to let out the dark trapped feelings of fear…fear of being less than enough.

With the help of the Creator, my Guides, my friends and my soul family…I borrowed their strength to help me raise up once again…dust myself off and go through this Storm…the Storm of facing who I was & who I wasn’t…it was my Dark Night of The Soul. (This Dark Night… lasted for me about 4 months, not 1 night)

Going through this very troubling time has given me so many gifts that I would not have had without going through this dark & very tough period of time…It has given me…ME, who I am.

So… here’s my 2 cents on when breaking down leads to a break through.

1. BreakDown = Breaking Down All Defenses
2. BreakDown = Breaking Down All Old Patterns
3. BreakDown = Breaking Down All Blocks to Authentic Self
4. BreakDown = Breaking Down All that is no longer Serving your Higher Self
5. BreakThrough = Knowing Who you Are
6. BreakThrough = Knowing What your Soul is Here to Do
7. BreakThrough = Learning to Love All of Yourself
8. BreakThrough = Learning to Accept your past & Acknowledging great learning from your past
9. BreakThrough = Knowing You are Strong enough to go through Anything
10. BreakThrough = Fully Opening your Heart & Soul…to Love Greater than you have ever done before

May your BreakDown lead to your BreakThrough with Divine Grace…that leads to your Heart and Soul Opening.

Until next time… Make each day count!

Be of Heart & Soul,
Nicole

5 Myths That Keep You Shut Down

November 13, 2011

November has just begun and yet it feels like it has been a long month already. Changes are prevalent and are World Wide now…the only constant being that there Is Change.
With the economy seeming to be in the toilet everywhere, there is fear & unease about job security and just being able to meet the basics of life. Yet the very nature of the HuMan Spirit is to Triumph in the face of adversity & Overcome many obstacles, because this is what it means to Live.  As we remember who we truly are, we help others around us remember who they are too.

I am reposting a very timely blog post from 2010 that speaks to the very nature of shining the Light of Truth on the myths that are to keep us in darkness…to keep us shut down and in pain.

Be in the Light of Truth and Know that you are so much More than these
myths…so much more. Blessings to All.

This past year has shaken many people to their very core. The myths that they were told into adulthood came crashing down around them. This caused a lot of people to re-evaluate their values, beliefs and their moral systems. A strong feeling of deception has been brewing among the young, middle aged and older generations alike. What they were told growing up is no longer working. I’m not being all doom and gloom; I’m just stating what the common strong feeling is at this time…DECEPTION.

So….here’s my 2 cents on 5 myths that keep you shut down.

1. You Are Defined By Your Job/Career
What a load of crap! You are defined by what Actions You Take in this world. Jobs and careers come and go; jobs get downsized, you can get fired, you can quite or the company can just go broke. But you my friend, always have you and you always have choices that lead to actions. Doing nothing is an action, a non-action. Get back into the game and be defined by something you CAN control – YOUR ACTIONS.

2. Money & Status Brings Happiness
Money does not buy happiness! Money can buy happy – a short term feeling that comes and goes. Happiness comes from the inside out…NOT the outside in. When you believe that money and things buy you happiness; you are dependent on outside factors to make You Feel Something. Happiness is a choice you make personally…really. If you decide you want to have happiness today; then just do it. No one can deter you from this state of being but you.

3. Having The Best… Just To Keep Up
The very idea of trying to keep up with: the neighbors, your friends, your family or you’re the THEY’S is ridiculous. This way of thinking puts you on the treadmill of life; I have to work long hours to buy the bigger house, I have to have the bigger TV, I have to go on the best vacation… on and on this goes. To who’s idea of The Best are you living up to, your own? When the idea of inner satisfaction is higher on the WANT scale then you are in your own head; you will do things for your own well being and Not for the sake of keeping up with everyone else.

4. The Career choice You chose At 18 Or 22 Is It For Life
What!??? Are you telling me that at this young age, you know who you really were? (Okay, so Scott Ginsberg is the exception). Most people at that age don’t have a clue to what they Really want out of life yet, I didn’t. Finding your true work passion usually starts to nudge you in your mid 30’s; and if completely ignored will SHOVE you to Full Alert status in you 40’s. This is the time when you begin to ask such questions as: Who the hell am I? Why did I choose this career again? Is this all there is to life? This is the time that you need to take for You by Yourself and ask the real honest questions about what makes you unique. What gifts can you share with others? What talents do you have that you enjoy doing for hours if you could?

5. Life Is Meant To Be A Struggle
Utter nonsense! Life is meant to be enjoyed! When you have uncovered and found the true You, life is flowing and abundant. When life feels like a struggle, you are pleasing someone else’s idea of what you Should Do. Be brave and take the time to go within and meet your true self for the first time. You cannot live the life of peace and happiness if you are pretending to be someone else. When you get real and honest with yourself… all else falls away and You show up. Believe that you are worth getting to know and life will stop being a struggle.

What myths are you willing to shatter?
Have you spent time with your TRUE Self today?
Until next time… Make each day count!
Be YOU,
Nicole

The Forgotten Ones

October 5, 2011

This has been an incredibly tough week for me personally…Emotions came bursting to the surface last Friday and I’ve been on a rollercoaster ride of Emotions ever since. Now, having worked on my emotional naming, clearing and releasing for over 12 years now, I can easily share my emotions freely with others and not have the need to apologize for tearing up or crying when I need to do so.

This week has been the most Raw that I’ve felt in such a long time…It cut through so deep down. Deep down to the very Core of my being…and then deeper than that at times. Speaking with others, they are also saying this as well…raw emotions just coming forth for them as well.

Just the other day I was given a message to reflect upon…dealing directly with my emotions & past buried emotions. The answer that came up for me was…”I don’t want to be Forgotten Again.” This simple sentence was softly spoken to me from Spirit…Yet this simple sentence made me double over in such deep, deep pain…I knew this was Truth. I didn’t want to be Forgotten…again. Then, I thought about how much we are all alike and share in the most basic needs & emotions…this is a Universal Hurt when we are Forgotten.

So… here’s my 2 cents on the forgotten ones.

1. Forgotten = Gone from memory
2. Forgotten = Easily ignored
3. Forgotten = Not memorable enough
4. Forgotten = Disappeared from existence
5. To be Forgotten is an incredibly hurtful feeling
6. To be Forgotten is a very isolating feeling
7. To be Forgotten makes one doubt their Self-Worth
8. To be Forgotten makes you feel so small and vulnerable
9. When we are Forgotten…we are devalued
10. When we are Forgotten…we are judged unimportant
11. When we are Forgotten…we are hurt by others ignoring our being
12. When we are Forgotten…we Hurt Deeply
13. Choosing to step out of the Pain…We Claim our Own Self-Worth
14. Choosing to step out of the Hurt…We Claim our Power
15. Choosing to step out of the Isolation…We Claim our own Attention
16. Choosing to step out of the Forgotten place…We Claim our Sovereign Rights Once More!

Claim your Power.
Claim your Sovereignty.

Until next time… Make each day count!

Be Remembered Once Again,
Nicole

Letting It All Hang out

May 6, 2011

Wow…ok and Big WOW is in order for all the changes that have occurred to both in and around the globe as well as in my personal life changes.
I am going through similar changes as is happening with Mother Gaia. We are all connected and we are very connected with Mother Earth, it is that we have been taught to look at Mother Earth as separate and apart from us…to only view Mother Earth as a thing we can control and change with out any consequences. This is what has made the planet unbalanced…this is what has made us unbalanced.

So… here’s my 2 cents on letting it all hang out.

Mother Gaia has been showing physical signs of being out of balance & re-balancing what she needs to:
** By no means do I mean to minimize the destruction and the great loss of human & animal life; this is only to reframe the disaster qualities and show renewal & growth may came out of such disasters **

1. Earthquakes = Old stagnant energies being released
2. Tsunamis = Washing away what is no longer needed
3. Blizzards = Cooling Energies & Settling Within
4. Hurricanes = Stirring up what has been calm to release needed energies
5. Floods = Abundance of water (emotions & tears) to cleanse & revive the dry parts
6. Heatwaves = Burning away withered & Struggling energies
7. Storms = Stiring up of the air and waters to bring to the surface to be released
8. Tornadoes = Clearing the Air and releasing pent up energies
9. Volcanic Eruptions = Spewing & Venting deep and hidden energies
10. Wildfires = Burning away the old to make way for the new

Mother Gaia has shown all of HuManity where she needs attention and what needs to happen to put Gaia back into Full Balance. I have taken notice that I too have needed to balance & realign my center to promote Healthy Mental Clarity, Heart Centered Values and Spiritual Integrity.

What lessons has Mother Gaia taught you recently?

How can you realign & straighten your future course of action?

Until next time… Make each day count!

Be Healing,
Nicole

Just Relax

December 11, 2010

Much has happened in my world & the World in general since my last post & I have say that I’ve been knocked over by some very deep & very personal lessons that I needed to re-learn and go though again to fully understand & heal the parts that I just band-aid over. Much pain and deep seated emotions have come up for me and I am now walking through them and can see the light at the end of the tunnel (even if it seems soooo far away…I do see the light) So with that being said I am reposting what I most need to see & hear & feel again. I originally posted this December 10, 2009. Enjoy the read again & take it all in.

With the holiday season in full swing & your holiday celebration can now be counted in days remaining…this may cause panic in the minds & hearts of many. (Okay…I may be talking about me here!) There is a secret to surviving…no, Thriving, during this busy & stressful season. Want to know what it is…ready…Just Relax…Deep Breathe…&Enjoy the Holidays! Ready or not…they are still coming…so why not enjoy them.

So… here’s my 2 cents on how to just relax.

1. Laugh…. A lot… no seriously, just laugh! (releases natural good feeling chemicals in the body)
2. Humor…needed NOW! Watch some lighthearted comedy movies and relax
3. Enjoy a bubble bath
4. Bubble wrap! Yep…you know you want to do it…Go ahead & just pop to your heart’s content (Popity Pop!!!)
5. Take a ME day: put phone away, turn off computer, stay in PJ’s & Lounge…Read…Rest
6. Take a refreshing walk & walk
7. Pamper yourself with some self care by doing something just for you
8. Nurture your soul & take in some beauty (museum tour, a nature walk, visiting a garden…)
9. Did I mention to enjoy a bubble bath?
10. Bake some homemade cookies & enjoy a few
11. A foot soak is a good thing….so soothing…
12. Put some relaxing music on & listen…deep breath in …deep breath out…

Repeat all the above suggestions as needed!

What relaxation tool can you use?

Have you relaxed & chilled out yet?

Until next time… Make each day count!

Be Relaxing,
Nicole

Knowing You Are Ready To Live Your Calling

August 31, 2010

Sometimes you just have to go for it!!! When Spirit talks to you and signals you that “Now is the time”…it’s time!

My life has seemed to take on such an enormous shift in direction…This is a good thing. I’m stepping out of my comfort zone. (I never did like boxes…don’t think I was ever in one for very long…But that is a different blog altogether me thinks) Where was I, ah yes…out of my comfort zone & into who I truly am… a healer.
My whole life has been preparing me for this moment in time…lessons I learned, self development workshops I took & Energy/Frequency training I took to help others heal themselves. Now IS the time when ALL comes together.

So… here’s my 2 cents on knowing you are ready to live your true calling.

1. Living your “old” life seems like a lie
2. Living a “down played” version of yourself
3. Staying in the same place (physically, mentally or spiritually) hurts your heart & soul
4. Becoming tired of the illusion of “staying safe” and doing what everyone else is or wants you to do.
5. Finding no joy or passion anymore in working in the traditional job/career & want to get out & do your Soul’s passion
6. Feeling great joy and passion by listening to and doing your Soul’s Work
7. Feeling energized when performing & doing this work
8. Giving to others from your Heart & this gift makes you so happy
9. Opportunities to work in this field have synchronisticaly crossed your path
10. The pure Joy of Living your True life’s purpose
11. Feeling more Excited than scared at this fantastic realization
12. Relying on your heart & Listening to Spirit to guide you to where you need to be at this moment in time to serve your highest purpose…Being the True you!

Are you ready to live a life of true purpose?

Do you know what your calling in life is yet?

Until next time…Make each day count.

Be Poetry,
Nicole