What Pendent Are You

I was thinking of the relationship between these 3 words this week; Dependent, Independent & Interdependent. These words have weaved in and out of my life from when I was very small and continue to do so now. Recently I have gained a much deeper understanding of these definitions and how these meanings have impacted my life.

So… here’s my 2 cents on what dependent, independent & interdependent means to me.

Dependent = relying on someone or something else for aid, support, etc.

We are all born Dependent; relying on others for all our basic needs being met for our very survival. In time we are given less from our care givers and we are taught to become more self-reliant. This helps us to grow into fuller and more rounded person who begins to contribute to their family, home & community. To be dependant is to have full support around you for getting all your needs met.

Independent = not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion & not influenced by the thought or action of others

Independent is the way we start to separate from first our parents and then from most authority figures in general. This stage is MOST profoundly demonstrated in the Teen Years. Yup, the constant questioning, the up-in-your-face “but that’s not fair” and “Why can’t I do go…” (this too shall pass, or so they say…) This is a natural and most important stage in our development and becomes important in setting healthy boundaries and trusting your instincts. Building a strong and healthy sense of Dependence creates room for the next stage.

Interdependent = Being mutually and physically responsible to, and sharing a common set of principles with, others.

Interdependent is the balance between both Dependent & Independent. To be completely one is either being held back from doing things on your own or being so concerned with doing EVERYTHING on Your own. Learning the fine qualities of living a healthy and productive life means becoming flexible enough to know when you need to lead your life in your own decisions and when to accept help and listen to some wisdom from others. To know what action to take…this requires getting to know the REAL you and what best fits for your life at that moment in time. This means that you will only know when it’s appropriate to walk the pendulum line between Dependent, Independent & Interdependent.

What Pendent are you most right now?

Are you willing to try on another Pendent for a while?

Until next time… Make each day count!

Be Mutual,
Nicole

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